You don’t have to choose between grieving and leading
But right now, it probably feels like you have to choose every single day.
You sit in meetings and wonder if anyone can tell. You start sentences and lose them. You make decisions and second-guess yourself in ways you never used to. You go home and fall apart, then pull yourself back together in time for tomorrow. You wonder how long you can keep doing this.
Nothing is wrong with you. You are grieving. And grief in a leadership role is one of the loneliest, most unsupported experiences there is.
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
You’re a leader. You built something. People count on you.
And right now, you are grieving.
Maybe you lost someone central to your life: a partner, a parent, a child, a friend. Maybe it was sudden. Maybe it was the end of a long and devastating road. And sometimes the loss isn’t a death. Divorce, estrangement, a career that fell apart - because grief doesn’t only come when someone dies. If you’re carrying a loss that changed everything, you’re in the right place.
Either way, you are not okay. And the world, your world, is still moving at full speed.
Grief isn’t the enemy of your leadership. But pretending it isn’t there will be.
The leaders I work with don’t learn to set grief aside. They learn to move with it - consciously and curiously.
Conscious means staying present to what you’re actually feeling not performing okay, not pushing it down until it ambushes you in a board meeting, but learning to move with the emotional reality of what you’re carrying. Curious means staying in growth rather than collapsing into the grief. Building the skills and strategies that let you function, lead, and eventually find out who you’re becoming.
That means understanding what grief is actually doing to your brain and body, so the fog and the waves make sense instead of terrifying you. It means developing the specific skills and mindsets that let you stay present for your work without abandoning yourself. It means learning to hold both grief and leadership without one destroying the other.
And somewhere in that process, though you may not be ready to hear this yet, it means finding out who you’re becoming. Because, in a way, the person you were before this loss is gone too. This work is about discovering who comes next, and learning to lead from that place.
“I can’t think straight. I used to be sharp. Now I lose words mid-sentence and forget things I should know.”
“I feel like I’m performing being okay. All day, every day. It’s exhausting.”
“I don’t know who to talk to. I can’t show this to my team. I can’t show it to my board. And I’m not sure my personal support network understands what the stakes are.”
“I’m scared that grief is going to cost me what I’ve built. That I’m going to make a bad call. That I’m going to lose the plot.”
“And underneath all of it I feel guilty that I’m even thinking about work when someone I love is gone.”
What working together looks like
Leading While Grieving - The Conscious and Curious Way
Private, one-on-one coaching over 6 months
Six months. Because grief isn’t linear, and it doesn’t run on anyone else’s timeline but yours.
Maybe you’re in the thick of it right now. Maybe it’s been a year, or two, and you’re realizing that what you’ve been doing, holding it together, pushing through, managing, isn’t sustainable anymore. Maybe something shifted recently and brought it all back to the surface. There is no expiry date on needing support, and there is no point at which you’ve waited too long.
Wherever you are in this, you deserve someone who will stay with you through it - not just help you manage the next wave.
We work on:
Understanding what grief is doing to your brain so you can stop fighting yourself and start working with what’s true
Tools for navigating the emotional ambushes that hit at the worst possible moments
Mindsets that let you hold grief and leadership at the same time
Communication strategies for your team, your board, your stakeholders so you can be honest without oversharing
Building a version of your leadership that has room for being fully human
This isn’t therapy. It’s coaching - practical, skills-based, and grounded in grief education. You’ll leave each session with something real to work with.
Why Me?
I’m a certified Grief Educator, Transformational Coach, and Workshop Leader. I’ve given a TEDx talk on grief. I’ve spoken on stages and in boardrooms about what it really means to move through loss.
And I am a grieving mother. My son died in September 2020. I know what it is to hold yourself together in public and fall apart in private. I know what it costs. I know what it opens up. I know the path - not because I read about it, but because I walked it.
I won’t pretend I know exactly what you’re going through. I will promise I won’t flinch from it.
Let’s talk.
You don’t need to have it together to reach out. You just need to wonder if there’s a better way through this.
A conversation costs nothing. It might change everything.